Happy Monday friends! It’s been awhile since I posted and that’s because I have been adjusting to having a newborn and a one year old! So I figured it was time for a little life update.
I have had a few people ask how I am managing having two kids under the age of two without my main support system here to help. AKA Rico. The answer is simply I just do it. I have help every now and then, but it’s usually just the three of us.
I love that I get to stay home with my boys and I know that they are well taken care of. Some days are better than others and then there are days that are just flat out trying. That’s where both boys are fussy and they both want held…all day. If I get frustrated, I go upstairs to the bathroom and let out a good 5 minute cry. That to me is like hitting refresh.
One thing I have found to help me is to get a shower every morning. Even if it is a 3 minute shower. I may not wash my hair every day or every other day, but sometime during that week it does get washed. Baby steps 😂
Another question I get asked is, how do I find “me” time. Well this one is hard to answer because I am still figuring that out. If I have to go to the bathroom, one or both boys are in there. Shower, yep you guessed it. One or both boys are with me. I have gotten like an hour here and there by myself but that’s not enough. I just go with the flow and focus on the moment. I know how fast the newborn phase flies by, so I am soaking that up.
It is funny how when I do get even a minute by myself, I miss my boys like crazy and want to be back with them.
Cayde and Lennox are my life. They come first. Now that I am past six weeks postpartum, I have been taking small strides of going out and about…with both boys! Sometimes it’s a crazy, hot mess and other times they both do so good. You win some and you lose some.
My advice for single mommas and well all mommas, live in the moment. It’s okay if your baby cries for a few minutes while you go to the bathroom or make breakfast. It’s hard to hear but they will be a okay! You are doing awesome and keep going! The next stage is even better than the last! Watching your children grow is truly a blessing!
Oh and also, coffee is my best friend. I have one cup a day. Lennox isn’t even 2 months yet, so I am still figuring things out. Meaning how to balance it all by myself. I have come to terms with that it is okay if there is dirty dishes in the sink 3 days later. I know it is okay if Cayde doesn’t pick up his toys every night. I need to listen to my body and if I’m pushing my limits, the dishes and toys can wait. I can’t be perfect, nobody is perfect. I strive for perfection and it is still a work in progress to get rid of that trait.
Overall life is so good! I wouldn’t change a thing, except for Rico to be here all the time. I am feeling good and the boys are well boys😂 I wouldn’t change being a boy momma for anything!